Embracing Our Introvert

Updated: Jul 8

Our next Emotional Fitness event is on the Introvert/Extrovert topic - Saturday, July 11th, 10am-12pm CST. The conversations will play off of these concepts and questions during the event. Click here to sign up!

The definition, "introverts get their energy from being alone vs. extroverts get their energy from being around people" is really incomplete when understanding ourselves. The purpose of this event is to not necessarily figure out if we are more introverted or extroverted, it is to understand if our introverted nature comes from a place of fear or a place of power.


Here is an interesting comparison for introverts vs. extroverts. Try and be honest in how you really are vs. how you want to be and is it coming from a place of fear or power?


How do you socialize? Answer yes, no or depends and explain why.

When going out for dinner, do you prefer 2, 3, 4 or more people?

Do you like to chat with the server at restaurants or keep it minimal?

After dinner, do you prefer doing another activity or going home?

In conversations, do you tend to do the talking or be the one asking questions?

For your birthday, would you like a big lively party or an small intimate party?

At large parties, do you say goodbye to lots of people or quietly leave?

Do you answer most of your phone calls or let it go to voicemail?

What does your ideal weekend look like as far as social activities?


Comfort with Our Inner World vs. Outer World

I have resisted the label "Introvert" because it tends to be more tied to our comfort level in social situations which is usually coming from fear or social anxiety. It is good to be aware and own social comfort level. However, l'd like to redefine being an Introvert to "our comfort level being with our inner world vs. our outer world". It's a matter of being inner-focused vs. outer-focused. For me, I know I am more comfortable and enjoy being in my inner world and I can see the benefits. I have a certain threshold of being outer-focused and being in my outer world. I do want to increase that threshold at the same time, I can still embrace my Introvert.